Louie1277 -
As Rich says, the Grape Grower is a good book, but if you check on Amazon the other book -- Jeff Cox's
From Vines to Wines is very comprehensive and can tell you everything from starting a new backyard plot to making wine in the meantime. It really is a good reference.
Another reference you can check on-line is
http://www.winemakermag.com/ WineMaker magazine -- the magazine has lots of back issues that you can search on-line and has a great column on "Backyard Vinyards" which has lots of information. See
http://www.winemakermag.com/stories/grapes for a list of some of them. Many of the back columns you can access on-line.
You also can look at some of the different threads on this part of the forum -- there really is lots of information. For example, my first year I tried to start some vines on my deck in flower pots... it didn't go so well but you can clearly get that from just looking through my "Missoula Vinyard" thread. There are several other threads on the site where people did have better luck trying to grow a vine or two that way -- but not me!
And you are close to a bunch of vinyards in the Temecula valley -- a Sunday drive can get you close to them and you might -- literally -- visit one that has tastings among their fields and ask at the tasting bar to talk to one of the people who actually work in the vinyard. Tell them where you live, what you want to do, and that you're looking at (from what I can tell by the red lines on your backyard pictures) "trying to grow" a couple rows of about 20 vines each just as a hobby -- and "what would you plant?"
And, PM me or any of the other folks here with any specific questions -- we'll be glad to help you out. I know Montana isn't California, but digging holes in the ground is the same anywhere!
Bottom line: don't hesitate to ask!
Dave
ps -- ask your wife if she likes "red, or white" and plant some vines of what she likes. That way it becomes a partnership! And believe me, a couple of years from now when those vines are dripping with grape clusters, and you say,
"Honey, I've been looking at picking up a small crusher-destemmer..." you WILL need her then as your partner, Pardner! (as Waldo would put it!)