I have a slightly bigger one from this company designed for cleaning a sanke keg I use to ferment larger batches of beer. It seems to work great for that. It gives me peace of mind since I can't exactly see in there to get at the krausen ring with a carboy brush.
No problems with the wife...
We both love drinking wine (and beer and single malt scotches and fine sipping tequila and sake and some others). My wife loves to cook and is looking forward to growing her own vegetables again once I get her garden area set up in the back yard. So she's thrilled...
We used to buy a lot more wine... so I'm definitely coming out ahead... and I'm enjoying the hobby. I still think some of the wine I buy is better than the most of the stuff I've made. The thing is, it's 10 times as expensive as mine, but it is not 10 times better. And the hobby side has me...
I missed that your temp is at 65 degrees. While this should work eventually, it will be much slower. That may be why you have some foam on top. It may just be getting started. As Wade said, bring the temp up and it will likely take off on it's own.
I wouldn't call myself an expert, per se, but it sounds like you may in fact have pitched too soon after the k-meta addition as you feared. If you are truly getting no fermentation activity after a few days, I can't imagine it would hurt to add more yeast. My concern about your statement...
It could be argued that video games are hobbies. What makes that method of passing time different than when I make a model car or a beer or work on a motorcycle?