Been there. Done that. Time is tyour friend. Oak will fade. I find bulk aging in this situation is a good plan. That way, you can taste periodically to see if the oak is fading enough for your taste. If not, then you can consider blending as an option. Maybe adding some unoaked sangiovese or shiraz or even cab or merlot to make a nice blend. You can certainly make these wines fit your palate as long as you are willing to let your imaginatiobn work.