Why would an addict be sad for someone who does not share their addiction? What would you do, Elmer, if you went deaf tomorrow? Do you think you would spend the rest of your life sad and depressed? If you could view this from the outside, as a person who is not addicted to music, what would you think of people who are?
I am not criticizing, just asking.
I am neither a chronically sad nor wantonly depressed individual. If you knew me in real life, you would see I am a positive-minded, friendly, disgustingly pleasant man. It is a simple fact that I am happy with my thoughts. My self-talk is confident. My heart is light. And my actions reflect that.
I have heard all of this many times. And I say with the utmost respect for the talented musicians out there, and all of their fans: It has always facinated me that those who seem to require the constant input of rhythmic sound to keep their spirits up somehow feel sad for those who do not. I have always considered this a very interesting topic, ripe for debate.
An addiction implies a deficit. What do you think?
Dave,
Maybe addict was too strong of a term. Especially since I know many, many people who are in the program and friends of Bill W.
I always think of the quote " I feel sorry for people who don't drink. When they wake up in the morning, that's as good as they're going to feel all day"- Frank Sinatra
and that makes me think of music, wine, movies, sports or almost anything.
I hear something, taste something, see something, than usually the next day tell the wife about it. Now she does not share all my enthusiasm about music or movies and that makes me sad. not Sad to the point I would cry, but sad as to the loss at a chance for a shared experience.
She will never get to experience those moments that I did.
But she will experience different things in different ways, as you will.
Just like my former coworker never got to hear Garcia put his solo into a Warf Rat Solo.
Or Hear Puccini
But not having done so does not mean his life was a waste, it just means there was not a shared experience.
See I am kind of like the borg in that respect, I like to share all those experiences.
I have no ill will towards those who dont "get" music. My father is like that. I once asked him if during the 60's and 70's he had the occasion to see any of the great shows. Watkins Glen, etc....
He would not know good music if it kicked him in the face.
I was a drummer before a wine maker and have played them for 3/4 of my life.
It is in my soul, every thing I touch is a sound, every footstep is a beat, ever walk a rhythm.
I stir my wine in rhythm, my golf swing has been broken into verses. I am surrounded by music.
That is just the way I see things.
but we agree this is a great debate to be had!