Don't use kits. Buy juice and craft it with a yeast you like that may achieve your objectives. The result is no kit taste. The wine will have a nose and your oak barrels will function like they should
Make a hot water solution with potassium metabasulfate and rinse out the barrel with scalding hot water then ad the solution with meta and let it sit for a day. Then scald out again and let it air dry. I blow some cold air in then do the same thing before you re use it with the hot water and...